|Sample Letter -
This is a general purpose sample.
My name is John Doe. I received your name and address from
datingpersonalsweb.com on the Internet. I liked your ad very much, and like you, I am also
interested in art, music and travel. I hope we can get to know each other better. I am
seeking friends from other cultures and would eventually like to find a loving, lifelong
partner. I hope this letter will serve as an introduction to me and that you will be
interested in corresponding and getting to know each other better.
I am 45 years old and was born in Charlestown, West Virginia. I have 2 brothers and a
sister. When I was 10 we moved to San Francisco, California where I live today. I went to
college at UCLA where I received a degree in business. I now work for a company
as a Senior Account Manager. In my spare time I
enjoy photography, hiking, and relaxing at the beach. I have a 8 year old daughter from a
previous marriage. I was divorced 4 years ago and she lives nearby with her mother. I have
enclosed some postcards I made from my photographs. They show some of the places I like to
go hiking, and parts of San Diego. I have also included a photo of myself - that's me with
my dog, Wuff.
I noticed that we had some of the same interests and would like to hear all
about where you live, your job, your hobbies, and plans for the future. Please write me
back and tell me more about you and your family. I would also enjoy any recent pictures of
you and about where you live.
I hope this will be the beginning of a long and lasting friendship. I look
forward to your reply with great anticipation. My address is:
2002 Franklin Ave.
San Francisco, Ca 90xxx
Phone # (744) 555-xxxx
|Making the Date
- Plan a casual datebased on what
both of you enjoy.
- Make the first date a short one. This
gives you an "out" in case the evening is a disaster.
- Plan to meet at a neutral, public site
where both will feel comfortable.
- Be clear about the arrangements.
- Drive separately; its a safety
precaution for both.
- Have some favorite activities in mind so
that you can make suggestions and participate in the planning.
- Until "whos paying" is
clarified, stick to affordable events or places. (Expecting a first date to pay for
something expensive can lead to problems.)
- Dont include your children in the
for the Date
- Consider what you and your date will be
doing. What can you do ahead of time to make the event go well?
- Have a contingency plan in mind. Perhaps
the theater has lost your tickets, or the movie youd planned to see is sold out.
When you plan ahead you wont be as likely to overreact and embarrass yourself. You
will simply shift into phase two.
- Ask your date-to-be about some of his or
her hobbies, activities, and interests. Then, as a conversation starter you can discuss
things they are most familiar with.
- Read the paper or watch the evening news
before going out. Be prepared to discuss some of the days current events.
- Make a list of your positive
attributesnot so that you can brag about them, but so that your awareness of them
builds your confidencewhich is attractive to others.
- Do some activity earlier in the day to
boost your self-confidence. For example: go for a run, swim, be with friends.
- Plan how you can look your best.
- Bring money and offer to pay for your
share of any restaurant bill or entertainment tickets.
During the date
- Be confident
- Be friendly and warm
- Call your date by his or her name
- Compliment him or her
- Give the other person plenty of
opportunity to talk. Listen to what he or she is saying
- Be natural
- Be honestact and say how you feel
- Thank them for the date